I think the idea is great in theory, but if you're unfortunate enough to have a spouse like mine who wants nothing to do with the day, do what we do - make another day a special "date" night where you paint the town red.  Preferably in July.  Or October.  Whenever suits you best.  But don't fall into the commercialism of it all, or if you must, shop on the 15th to get some better deals!

I have never had a boyfriend do anything for V-Day so to me it's like "so what? hurrah, another day to buy candy and junk..."
If you have a thing for the lil' hearts with words then, like you said, the 15th is great for that.
My current s/o and I have never gone on a date. heh
I think commercialism gets to everything. Sad to say.

-Cassie

i was married for 26 years and no once did my ex do anything for "heart" day unless once my kids go old enough the guilted him into it.

then i met this (what i thought was a wonderful guy) and for the past 5 years feb 14 has been wonderful and a day that he put some thought into our relationship.

but recently (like less than a month ago) he dumped me (i still care about you, let's be friends) but needless to say he hasn't called, offered to help me in my  new apartment.  also, i don't have a job, am in school full time in a career change that he supported or supposedly supported 100%,

i am the only person in my class that is single.  so next tuesday is going to super suck for me.  

i once had a great poem from someone about why valentine's day sucks,  i sure wish i hadn't thrown it out.

Hi, creativedesigngirl2.  You sound a lot like me.  Or your situation does, anyway.  I haven't been dumped by a new boyfriend, but I did just separate from my husband of 25 years.  He might want to help me with my new apartment, but I wouldn't want him to know where I live.  I am broke and destitute in a dead end job, and desperately in need of a career change.  So... I'll avoid the pitfall you've just found and I won't let some new guy talk me into quitting my job and going back to school while he pays all my bills.  Oh, that sounds heavenly, and I'd SO love to do it... but... men-- you can't trust 'em!

Good luck!

I'd suggest taking a day to visit your local Department of Social Services.  Apply for food stamps and anything else you might need-- Medicaid.  Get all the help you can, and finish your degree.   Take a part time job at WalMart, nights, if you have to.  You can get through this!!!  

I'm an artist, a writer, and an actress.  I'm sure you're artistic, as well, given the name you use.  

Sorry you lost your friend's poem.

I've written a delightfully cynical "dump your husband/boyfriend song that has amused and resonated with many jaded people in similar circumstances.  If you email me, I'll happily send you a copy.

sue.molenda@inmar.com

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Marusha wrote:

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U are soooo not the only one.
I've been feeling depressed since yesterday because I kind of thought too much and came to a conclusion where I see that valentine's day is just another commercial boom which makes half of west civilisation desperate, depressed and sad...
That's life in 21st century....

Hope you will one day cheer up (as will I).

Take care!

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Marusha wrote:

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U are soooo not the only one.
I've been feeling depressed since yesterday because I kind of thought too much and came to a conclusion where I see that valentine's day is just another commercial boom which makes half of west civilisation desperate, depressed and sad...
That's life in 21st century....

Hope you will one day cheer up (as will I).

Take care!

lol depressed..?? i'm single (duh, arent we all..) and yeah, u feel a little left out... but hey, it's a good day to laugh it off.

i think valentines day is stupid cuz like why does ur bf or gf have to get u something on that particular day.....?Why cant they get u soemthing nice just because? why cant they get u a rose or a bear, or candy or w.e just because they love you?It is 1 day out of 365 days that they have to be all "sweet" and what not........why cant they be sweet and generous all day everyday? why couldnt every day be a day for getting recognized, or getting a rose sent to u, or getting a song sang to you.......its dumb, its not like anyone remembers anyways...........the next day they all forget anyways.........like nothing ever happenecd

I hate Valentine's Day.  I am married and this year I got a whopping card.  I told my husband not to get me flowers because they costs too frickin' much and they only die.  Sixty bucks for something that is already starting to die.  No thanks.  So, my "loved" one goes to Walgreen's and probably picked one of the five cards left.  That's it!  Oh, we were suppose to go out to eat but I got sick.  THAT SUCKS!  Oh, and what's even better, we were going to eat for free - at Applebee's!  And what I mean by free is that we were going to use a gift card that we received for Christmas.  So, did I get dinner served or prepared?  Hell no.  I had to heat up a microwave meal.  Ohhh.  Yummy.  I fucking hate Valentine's Day.  Oh, it gets even better.  How about when your friend calls you to brag about all of the great things she got from her husbands.  Baby carnations for her and their children.  Dinner out - alone - without their children.  Oh, yes one more thing.  My husband has been working on the computer non-stop since he got home.  Oh, he also bought himself a $5 scratch-off but I couldn't get $5 of anything.  Thank you so fucking much.  I am so glad that he cares.

im so pissed off that everyone believes in the one special moment or looks for the one special person.  the truth is we dont spend enough time these days looking at what makes our day a perfect day. i was reading what most of oyu have said and i am thinking to myself "what the fuck are these people thinking?!!!!"  sure not haveing a valentine on valentine's day is a bit depressing or not being cherished by your spouse makes you pissed off, but no one is getting the bigger picture here.  who cares about your life on one day of the year.  care about the one person next to you for the sake of enjoying life.  "what you tihnk so shall you recieve" . the minute you judge your day by another person's day then you just commericalized your life and that is worse than celebrating one bullshit holiday, one day of the year.  think for yourselves people and dont hate on valentine's day.  hating is degrading towards our culture and inteligence.

I must admit I did go out and buy my 7 year old daughter some sweets. It's hard to explain to a 7 year old why Daddy didn't return the gift that she worked so hard on make. Yes, I know it would be nice to make her a gift, but remember, a 7 year old is only thinking about CANDY.   While at store I saw countless gullable robots settling on thoughless red cheap junk. While my travels brought me through the card section, I saw sheeple half-ass reading the mountains of pink and red corny gibberish filled cards. The cards may as well have be in Arabic or Chinese. I'm not a bitter person, but If I need brachs or some cheesy gift card company to remind me how much I appreciate my lovely Wife, then maybe being a Husband isn't my thing. You can have Valentine's Day. I look stupid in red anyway!! I think I'll suprise my wife this weekend by secretly arranging baby-sitting and taking her to a nice restaurant she's been hinting at. I may even go out on a limb and take her to see Broke Back Mountain, as long as my buddies don't find out. I bet I'll see them there too! LOL. When you do things for others that you normally don't do, that stuff is likely to make your significant other feel special.

I had managed to work myself into a drippy puddle when my ex-husband of nearly 10 years called.  We of course trashed the holiday and wished each other a peachy VD.  We had a lovely conversation, he even scanned the card he bought me but was too chicken to send.  Needless to say it was as simple as a phone call to make me feel better.  The ex lives thousands of miles away so he isnt an option for dating, but the real question is....  Since my BF didnt do or say anything (no call, card, email, text msg, stale old wildflower, nothing) that could have easily spared me feeling like nothing to everyone, should I dump him tomorrow?  I have to admit all of the ladies who were angry at the lame VD efforts of their hubbies/BFs should really be glad that they werent completely absent from their minds.  It could have been worse, you could know that you don't even warrent an email!

I think thats a pretty petty reason to dump someone, it could be that Valentines day just slipped his mind,  I hate guys who go over board with Valentines day, it makes the rest of us guys look bad and it proves nothing except how much of a sucker you are for buying into this commericalised fad.

A couple of years ago my GF told me she didnt want anything for Valentines day so I thought, great finally I met a pretty cool girl but when I got her nothing she got all sulky she dumped me soon after, she didnt admit that was the reason but I'm pretty sure it was, why cant women just say what they really mean.
I didnt make that mistake this year but I dont think ill ever be a fan of V day.

I don't think v-day is the worst day ever. If you don't have a lover you can celebrate it with friends. You all should do that to!  

I really hate this day. This year i was in love with a guy that...well...he liked me to...and i just getting more and more in love with him and i was expecting that day to ,maybe, i dunno, be with him and then i found out that he was dating a fucking bitch that was already having a boyfriend !!! so i spent that fucking day all by myself...depressed, and kind of that thing happened last year.  And i was pissed off by my friends  who were asking me to tell them what to buy to their boyfriends!!!!
    As a funny fact, last year me& my friends were all alone and we decided to give presents to each other. that was funny and actualy if you don't have a fucking boyfriend is not the end of the world.